Why do we fear feedback?
Is this because it hurts our ego? The picture we have painted of ourselves? Or perhaps an insult to our skills and knowledge?
The reality is that we ask for feedback with an open mind. We can probably all safely agree that we have asked for this feedback with a positive attitude and expected it not to hurt. Yet it did.
That is because we have built this narrative in our head that feedback is only good when it is positive. When somebody tells you everything is perfect and validates all of the hard work and effort you have put in.
If you think about the feedback sessions you hold with your team, have you ever walked in prepared to burst someone’s bubble and tell them they are rubbish at what they do? Or have you always walked in with a positive mindset, that you are going to help an individual grow today?
So why do you think those delivering your feedback are out to get you? The more you think like this, the more you will embed this idea in your team, which will make it more difficult for them to accept constructive feedback.
Remind yourself and your team that feedback is positive no matter what the topic. Feedback allows you as an individual to reflect, act and grow! Why is that bad?! If it is “negative feedback”, then listen to what it is that you could do better. Nothing will harm you…the suggested actions will only help you grow.
Written by Sahar Habib
Founder of Coach Wilson