Leadership is about switching from non-resourceful states to more resourceful ones.
The make-up of a leader is not one of victimhood or entitlement! Focusing on what other people have done to you, or the fact that you feel someone owes you something, is paving your way to failure. Leaders have the mentality of a survivor, even a hero, in other people’s eyes. A true leader has the ability to crawl out of a hole, and climb a mountain right after a disaster.
Remember this, ‘everything is your fault, and nothing is thanks to you’. That is how leadership can feel at times. But the victim mentality is simply not one that we can allow.
It is not too hard to identify someone who leads as a victim. They usually start rationalising with phrases like:
• ‘How could I have known…’
• ‘That wasn’t in my department…’
• ‘You don’t understand…’
• ‘Am I supposed to be a baby-sitter…’
• ‘That’s just how things are done…’
• ‘That’s just who they are…’
These are actually excuses. They shift blame away from the leader on to something they claim is outside of their control.
Do not allow yourself to become a victim. You are a hero and you will get back back up and climb that mountain.
Written by Sahar Habib
Founder of Coach Wilson